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While there’s a plethora of good wedding advice out there, whether it’s from family and friends, wedding planners or blogs, for every piece of good advice, it seems like there’s also a piece of bad advice. Keep that old saying of taking everything with a grain of salt in mind when it comes to wedding planning advice, because sometimes, what seems well-meaning might just turn out to be the exact opposite.

Here are some examples of wedding advice gone bad from real-life brides.

1. ‘Everyone needs a wedding planner'

It seems everybody has an opinion on whether or not you need a professional wedding planner. For many brides, especially those looking to save a few bucks on a DIY wedding, planners may not be absolutely essential. But others with more extravagant events might benefit from some professional support.

For bride Amy Hefter of Davison, Mich., a wedding planner wasn’t integral to her big day with husband Ken Toczylowski.

"I kept hearing that ‘everyone needs a wedding planner to make things work and that it's impossible to do it all yourself,’” Hefter says. “I found that to be so not true!”

The bride and groom did a lot of DIY decor for their beach-themed wedding, and did it all without the help of a planner. Hefter says looking back, she “wouldn’t have wanted it any other way.”

So, the question still remains, should you hire a wedding planner? Unsurprisingly, most professional wedding planners say yes. However, many also recommend that brides who think they have it all under control meet halfway and hire a day-of coordinator that steps in on the big day to make sure all the little details are handled.

2. ‘Don’t worry about a thing – it will be the best day of your life!’

Instead of receiving more helpful advice on wedding day logistics, many brides are told by numerous friends and family that the wedding day will be the best day of her life.

Realistically many brides wish that someone would have told them about how stressful everything would be, and that no longer how much you plan, things still may not go seamlessly.

Cherish the time that you aren't in the spotlight and plan for it accordingly. These are those times before the ceremony with the bridesmaids or family that get to see you behind closed doors.

3. ‘Decide on a vendor now before someone else books your date!’

While Disco, Mich., bride Megan Rochon couldn’t remember any specific bad advice she was given for her 2015 wedding to Chris Gerbino, she did remember how during wedding planning, she felt pressured into making decisions.

“People were trying to rush me into making important decisions,” Rochon says. “This happened when I was trying to decide on a vendor and was told another bride would scoop up my date, or when I was told to pick a dress I didn't love because the style was being discontinued.”

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